What does the number 10 mean to YOU?

I don't know what that number means to you, if anything at all....but to me it means relief!
You see, not counting today, we have 10 days (and don't forget the wake-up) until Mike is home.
That number is a huge count down number to me and my kids.

Its relief knowing he is out of harms way.

Its relief knowing that my best friend is once again at my side.

Most seem to think that I have it sooo together. I've gotten comments that I seem to have it all together...boy am I misleading lol.

You see, I have learned coping skills.

Reality is this, I get nervous about decisions I make.

My anxieties get out of whack alot of days.

Each thing that falls upon my shoulders is like the weight of the world to me. I know Mike expects me to take care of things at home. So I take that responsibility very serious. Probably more serious than I should. I make sure things are absolutely taken care of.

I am always trying to better things. My house, my self, my kids. So on top of doing my daily stuff, I put other responsibilities on myself..dieting...exercising...buying a house, working a part time job....What am I doing? Am I TRYING to find my breaking point? hahahahaha.

It sure might look like it, heck, it looks that way to me...but another way to look at it is this.

If we don't stretch ourselves some, we won't know how flexible we can be!!!!!

I try to look at it like I'm stretching my skills to see what I'm capable of.

But sometimes, I think I push myself too far.

Anyway, those times are just about done. Once Mike gets home, we start the process for the house loan thru the VA. I can't wait till the day we get the notice that all is approved and we do the closing and things are fine and dandy and we get the keys to the house. Of course, all locks will need to be changed lol....but hey, its ours right?

Hopefully we will be at church Sunday. Tony is still not quite feeling 100%. He is eating..but still pretty weak. Michael isn't feeling 100% either. Boy I want all these sicknesses to go away.
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Wow, I forgot to write yesterday and congratulate myself! Yesterday March 23rd, was the one year mark for my blogging!!!! I start alot of things and quit....but I've managed to keep with this for a whole year. Of course, I've had some help from John every once in a while reminding me to write something lol.

If anyone has the time to write a little daily, a blog is great. Its been very theraputic for me. Sometimes I have something "important" to say, and sometimes I just write to see myself write lol. I have moments like that. But I love to write and hope to someday write a book. (am I stretching again?)



Bless someone today...
Nikki

Happy Spring

Yes, I know I'm actually a day late but Angel woke up yesterday morning and said, "Happy Spring Mommy"...I guess my kids have been looking forward to spring more than I have lol.

I didn't even know when the first day of spring actually was ...

But as I sit here and type, the sun is shining and I wonder ..hmm...how warm will it be today. So I open up another browser window, and go to www.weather.com and type in my zipcode to find out high 60's today. NICE!! But that means DQ will be swamped tonight. Usually that is a good thing but I am still unsure about some of the things that I make lol.

THe house news is coming along. The house circuit box has to be upgraded from a 60 AMP box to a 200 box. The box is actually there but I need a certified electrician to hook it all up for me.
I hope it won't cost too much ...but it needs to be done before we move in .

When Mike gets home, we send this paper into the V-A (Veterans Admin) to get a Certificate that says that we are eligible for a VA loan and then send that in to a bank and then the loan process begins. Boy , I can't wait!!! THis house is awesome. All of the kids will have their own room. There is an attic that is a finished attic that the kids will use for a playroom. Off of the kitchen, there is a room just perfect for our computer room. And its got TWO, yes TWO bathrooms!!!!!! No more having to shout out, "anyone have to go to the bathroom, I'm taking a shower now!!!" We have a bathroom in the basement, but no one wants to go downthere to use it. hahhaaa....

But I will keep you all updated!!!
Take care everyone...
Be Blessed,
Nikki

Not many days to go!!

Well, the time is ticking down until Mike will be home!!
Am I looking forward to it?

ABSOLUTELY!!!

But right now I am swamped. I think my mulitask abilities are being pushed to their limit. I never knew my limitations...but I sure do now. When I can't keep my thoughts straight, and forget to pay a bill, I know I'm to my limit.

I am trying hard to do childcare. I do my best work at home, not having to juggle house, kids and Dairy Queen.

I made up a bunch of fliers and hope that I can get a few children in here to watch.

I have had so many people ask me how my job is going? Its going fine but the other things are the problem.

I'm not perfect but I try to get others to think that I have it all together...

Boy, do I paint a pretty picture when in reality, my life is pretty shambly!

Its been really hard lately on me. Trying to get ready for Mikes return, taking care of kids, with school, with house, arranging new house stuff, Dairy Queen stuff, Avon, diet, exercise, etc.

Hopefully things will get easier soon, before I land myself in an altered reality where everything is roses and chocolate and there are NO allergies and NO FAT or calories in the chocolate.

be Blessed
Nikki

Bits...

Hey..wow, its saturday and I haven't written since Monday. Its been a crazy week with me trying to get used to working outside the home and fitting that in with everything else I do daily.

Its only part time but its a juggling act.

Not much longer now till my husband gets home...

I'm doing fine.

Will hopefully update more later

Nikki

A little of this..a little of that

Hello everyone.
I was surprised that its been since Thursday since I last wrote but it would be an understatement to say that I've been swamped.

Today's blog is just a bit of an update so here goes:

Still no news on buying a house. The house that #1 on our list won't happen. The owners that were selling, were supposed to close on the house that THEY bought but the closing didn't happen because the owners changed their minds so not only are THEY out of a house, but now they can't sell THEIR house to US.

That made me a bit sad but obviously that door was closed for a reason. So waiting upon God to open another one.
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Michael has his girlfriend here for a few days from Virginia Beach so its been a nice visit with her.
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The weather has definitely been feeling like spring but I hear a touch of winter is still right around the corner...

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Preparations are being made for Mike's arrival on the 4th. It won't be long but some days it still feels like forever.
Especially with me trying to do my daily thing AND look for a house for sale. Mike wants to be in it by June 1st...but we have limitations..we only want to be in the city I live in now which doesn't leave us too many options.

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Well, in order to accomplish my goals today, I need to get off here and get a move on it.
Everyone reading, please , remember Who's got the Whole world in HIS hands...
Be Blessed
Nikki

Daily Mysteries of God

Do you wake up each morning and wonder what mystery God will reveal to you today?

Try it...look for it....EXPECT IT!

God loves to give gifts to his children.

I see a mystery unraveling before my eyes. Maybe later I will reveal it!! HAHAH.....

God is good how he works in our lives.

Be Blessed!!

How to transition to home life from ship life ..(a good laugh here)

Got this in an email from a friend. How a Navy guy can transition being home from being onboard ship....Interesting thoughts :)

Warning to the Family of a Returning Sailor.
You will soon have your loved one home again. He has been living in an extremely crude environment for quite some time and will require time to adjust to his former lifestyle.
The key to help him through this difficulty is PATIENCE.
Remain calm if he mixes his mashed potatoes with his chocolate pudding, stirs his coffee with his finger, or eats as though someone was going to steal his food.
Bear with him if he walks out to the back patio and throws the trash over the railing into the backyard.
Do no be alarmed when he walks through a door and ducks his head and raises his feet, because it's not a neurotic condition. It's just the way he has been walking for the past 6 months.
Show no surprise if he accusses the grocer of being a thief, argues with the sales clerk about the price of each item, or tries to sell cigarettes to the new boy on the sly.
Most important of all: His digective track will also require some adjustment.For the first week, all vegetables must be boiled until they are colorless and falling apart (after they have been sitting out in the hot sun for at least a week prior to his getting home).
Eggs must be tinged with a shade of green and be runny, bacon nearly raw and all other meats must be extremely well done.
Have beef for the first five or six days, calling it roast beef the first night, braised beef the second, beef tips the third, beef stew the fourth, etc.
If milk is served it should be a room tempature and slightly dilluted with water.
If he prefers to eat his meals while sitting next to the trash can, don't be concerned.
He's grow used to the smell that it may take a while for normal tastes to return.
In the evenings, turn off all air-conditioning, open all windows and let in as many bugs as possible.
Let him sleep on the floor in the laundry room with the dirty clothes because he's so used to the smell.
For the first few nights, wake him every three or four hours. Tell him he's late for the night watch in the backyard.
He'll understand because he's been doing something just as stupid for the past six months. Under no circumstances should he be allowed to get a complete nights sleep during this critical adjustment time.
His daily routine may seem strange to you, especially when he wakes everyone up at six in the morning screaming "Reville, Reville, all hands heave out and trice up!"
Just smile and nod and make sure everyone is up and on the back porch at seven for muster, instruction, and inspection.
Then, in the late afternoon, humor him when he walks around the house closing all the windows and doors and reports to you that yoke is set throughout the house.
His language may seem foreign and you may not understand all the terms he uses. It isn't necessary that you do. Just smile and be pleasant.
Some of the terms you may hear are: Turn-to, Sweepers-Sweepers, Men working aloft, This is a drill, Wog, beer-thrifty, etc.
Do not be surprised when he answers the phone and instead of saying "Hello" he says: the room he's in, his rank, and name. For example, Living room (you fill in the blank) this is a non-secured line subject to monitoring, how may I help you Sir?
NEVER make favorable references to the NAVY leadership structure.
To do so will almost always illicit an extremely loud outburst which may continue for hours.
The bathroom is quite possibly the most dangerous place in the house for your USS __________ returnee.
Before he arrives, strip the bathroom of all accessories such as, bathmats, and any and all toiletry items.
Crack the mirror and run water on the floor. Toilet paper is optional, but if it is furnished, it must be placed in a puddle on the floor.
Turn off the hot water at the source for the first few days. Wait unil he is in the shower, soaped up and then turn the water off altogether for about 15 minutes.
All of these precautions are imperative, because if he walks into a bathroom which is complete with all the above mentioned items, he may shrink into a corner and curl up into the fetal position, wide-eyed and shaking.
If this happens there are only two proven and accepted methods of snapping him out of it; yell "Mail-Call or Liberty-Call." In either case, stay clear of the doorway. In closing, always remember that beneath that suntanned shell there beats a heart of gold, it being the only thing the Navy couldn't confiscate or reschedule at a later date. With kindness, patience, and the occasional swift kick, your loved one will soon return to his former self .

BIG PLANS!!!

Well, MIke and I have been looking into different ways of making things work when he comes home.

I will still need to work part time but we are finding a way to make it easier on me to have a van.

If all works out...and everything gets approved, we are....

BUYING OUR VERY FIRST HOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Its so beautiful and I can't wait!!! Its been sold right now straight thru the owners, and going to take a second look at it today. If my father in law says its all good to go, we are going to start the paperwork on getting our VA approved loan. You see, with the VA, they guarantee our loan thru the banks they work with. No down payment or any money up front at all!!! THe payment, with adding in an extra bill to pay off, will be less than what we pay rent right now!! Saving us probably $100 a month. Hey, anything helps at this point. THe roof is only about 8 years old, a new heat system was just put in a month ago, and a new water heater too. Its about 2100 sqare feet of living space too. Oh , the living room has a fireplace with gas logs. It is soooo nice of a house!!!!! Please pray that this works out. I believe this is God's will....how I found the house, the people that own the house know my father in law....we sat and talked for over an hour, they are great people!!!

The only thing is this...those who will help me move, will have to go up some serious stairs to get the furniture in the house :(, but hey, it gives us exercise right? lol

I will be feeling the pain too cause I will have a ton of stuff to move ...more boxes to carry but it can be done a little at a time.

I am soooooooooo excited, the kids are excited, and we can't wait to get this moving and get our letter stating that we are approved!!!!!!

More to come
Nikki

Winds of Change?

Yes, lately I've been writing alot about change because change , in my life, is what I've had foremost on my mind.

Having to get a part time job outside the home, (unless I can fulltime babysitting work in my home) has been a tough thing for me to grasp. Even my oldest son, Michael, told his girlfriend, " I can't believe my mom is getting a job!" hahaha. You see, its been 14 years since working outside the home.

But I know that we need the extra help financially right now. And it looks like instead of drawing unemployment for a while, my husband will need to find full time work starting June 1st . Hopeing he can get on with a local landscaping company. He said he would love doing that since he's been so cooped up on a ship for so long.

But with less than one month to go till Mike comes home, and all of these other changes that are taking place, I've had alot on my mind.

But no matter what, God is in control. He already knows what is in our future and what job Mike will get. We have to make this pizza thing work in order to secure a future for our children someday. But guess what, God knows that too. I have believed that He brought us here for a specific purpose. And by faith I know that He will provide Mike a job, Michael a car when he needs one, me a part time (or maybe full time in home) job, great Christian character in my kids, and any of the other needs that arise in our lives. We believe in something that isn't seen but faith is what drives us. We see thru our faith and God provides for us in so many ways which creates stronger faith in Him.

Don't worry, with all of the changes happening, I haven't forgotten who's in the drivers seat. :)
I'm just acting like a backseat driver sometimes....and I can only imagine how annoying that can be to God :) I'm thankful he's patient with me...

Be Blessed
Nikki

1 Month and Counting :)

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Recipe for a Military Spouse

1 1/2 cups Patience, 1 cup Courage, 3/4 cup Tolerance, dash of Adventure, 1 pound of Ability

To the above ingredients: Add 2 tablespoons elbow grease and let stand alone for one year. Marinate frequently with salty tears. Pour off excess fat and sprinkle ever so lightly with money then Knead dough until payday. Season with international spices. Bake 20 years or until done. Makes unlimited servings

SERVE WITH PRIDE

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I AM THE AMERICAN SAILOR

Hear my voice, America! Though I speak through the mists of 200 years, my shout for freedom

will echo through liberty's halls for many centuries to come. Hear me speak, for my words are of

Truth and Justice, and the Rights of Man. For those ideals, I have spilled my blood upon the world's troubled waters. Listen well, for my time is eternal - yours is but a moment.
I am the spirit of heroes past and future. I am the American Sailor. I was born upon the icy shores at Plymouth, rocked upon the waves of the Atlantic, and nursed in the wilderness of Virginia. I cut my teeth on New England codfish, and I was clothed in southern cotton. I built muscle at the halyards of New Bedford whalers, and I gained my sea legs high atop the mizzens of Yankee clipper ships.
Yes, I am the American Sailor, one of the greatest seamen the world has ever known. The sea is my home and my words are tempered by the sound of paddle wheels on the Mississippi, and the song of whales off Greenland's barren shore. My eyes have grown dim from the glare of sunshine on blue water, and my heart is full of star-strewn nights under the Southern Cross. My hands are raw from winter storms while sailing down round the Horn, and they are blistered from the heat of cannon broadside while defending our nation. I am the American Sailor, and I have seen the sunset of a thousand distant, lonely lands.
I am the American Sailor. It was I who stood tall beside John Paul Jones as he shouted, "I have not yet begun to fight!" I fought upon the Lake Erie with Perry, and I rode with Stephen Decatur into Tripoli harbor to burn the Philadelphia.
I met Guerroere aboard Constitution, and I was lashed to the mast with Admiral Farragut at Mobile Bay. I have heard the clang of Confederate shot against the sides of Monitor. I have suffered the cold with Peary at the North Pole, and I responded when Dewey said, "You may fire when ready Gridley," at Manila Bay. It was I who transported supplies through submarine infested waters when our soldier's were called "over there." I was there as Admiral Byrd crossed the South Pole. It was I who went down with the Arizona at Pearl Harbor, and I who supported our troops at Inchon, and patrolled dark deadly waters of the Mekong Delta.
I am the American Sailor and I wear many faces. I am a pilot soaring across God's blue canopy, and I am a Seabee atop a dusty bulldozer in the South Pacific. I am a Corpsman nursing the wounded in the jungle, and I am a Torpedoman in the Nautilus deep beneath the North Pole. I am hard and I am strong.
But it was my eyes that filled with tears when my brother went down with the Thresher, and it was my heart that rejoiced when Commander Shepherd rocketed into orbit above the Earth. It was I who languished in a Viet Cong prison camp, and it was I who walked upon the Moon. It was I who saved the Stark and the Samuel B. Roberts in the mine infested waters of the Persian Gulf. It was I who pulled my brothers from the smoke filled compartments of the Bonefish and wept when my shipmates died on the Iowa and White Plains. When called again, I was there, at the tip of the spear for Desert Shield and Desert Storm.
I am the American Sailor. I am woman; I am man; I am white and black, yellow, red and brown. I am Jew, Muslim, Christian and Buddhist. I am Irish, Filipino, African, French, Chinese, and Indian. My standard is the outstretched hand of Liberty. Today, I serve around the world, on land, in air, on and under the sea. I serve proudly, in war and peace alike. Tell your children of me. Tell them of my sacrifice, and how my spirit soars above their country. I have spread the mantle of my nation over the ocean and I will guard her forever. I am her heritage and yours.
I AM THE AMERICAN SAILOR!

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The Navy Wife
A Navy Wife is no ordinary woman. Operating for months at a time without the companionship or assistance of her husband, she routinely overcomes challenges that would give the average person a nervous breakdown.

Part Doctor, part Teacher and part Handyman, she can lavish loving care on a sick toddler, help a teenager with his Algebra homework, and track down a faulty circuit breaker -- all while holding down a full time job.

With thirty minutes notice, she can serve breakfast, lunch, or dinner to fourteen hungry sailors, and still somehow balance her family’s meager grocery budget.

She can press a set of dress whites to inspection standards, tie a perfect square knot in a military neckerchief, and pack a seabag in the cold hours before dawn.

For months at a time, she must settle for letters instead of kisses, emails in place of hugs, and long-distance phone calls in lieu of her husband’s touch.

She manages a smile when her sailor is at sea for the second Anniversary in a row, and accepts the fact that there’s a one-in-three chance that he will have to stand Duty on her Birthday. She has learned to stand on a pier and wave goodbye without tears, even when her heart is breaking.

To her children, she is Chauffeur, Umpire, Psychologist, Spiritual Advisor, Financial Consultant, part-time Father, Tooth Fairy, Santa Clause, and the Easter Bunny. To her husband, she is Friend, Lover, Partner, Confidant, and Soul-Mate.

She is a patriot. She is the sort of citizen that all of us should be, but so few of us are. She lives with sacrifice, because she believes in the rights and ideals that her husband defends. Although she wears no uniform, she is a part of that defense ¾ a vital link in the chain of Freedom. Although she wears no medals and will reap no glory on the field of battle, she is a hero in the truest sense of the word.

She is a Navy Wife.

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More to come

Approaching change!!

No, I'm not talking about the change of life "hormonally" but a change from normal routine lol

Looks like plans have changed yet again and I need to work a part time job. Now, I haven't worked in 14 years outside the home. So, I'm a little nervous about this but hey, if I get what I want, Dairy Queen can't be too bad lol.

I would rather work childcare from home, but don't know anyone who needs babysitting done so until that need becomes known to me, then I am going to have to take an evening job at DQ. :)

Not sure how long this will last...but probably at least for a year unless something else happens.

If I could get 3 daycare kids, then all would be fine.

Anyway, for those of you who read my "ramblings" can you please say a prayer for me. God knows what I need and when I need it and what is best for me and my family. Pray that He makes it known to me and that I have a willing heart to do His will always.

Be Blessed,
Nikki

Stand out in a crowd

Are we afraid to be different?
Are we afraid to be stared at....wondered about....?

God calls us to be different...set apart.
We aren't to fit the "norm".

When you decided to obey the gospel, you made the committment to no longer be as the world is, but to be different. You NEED to be noticed in a crowd.
Now, since you know that you WILL be standing out among those in the world, are you ready for that challenge?

Many Hollywood movie stars have the papparrazzi following their every move. They are hiding out from the cameras and from crazy fans young and old.

Are we hiding from the world who NEEDS to see the love of Jesus in us?

If so, then we need to stop it!!

How else can they see Jesus but to show them !!

I wonder what snapshots that have been taken of me (just a figure of speech about the book of life) that I would be embarrassed about.

Remember to live you life like you are on display...24 hours a day, 7 days a week, because , face it...YOU ARE!!!

Be Blessed
Nikki

Trusting God in Everything

Have you given everything over to God? Do you trust Him with everything?

I have had to ask myself this question lately. You see, this is my 11th year homeschooling. I guess every once in a while I go thru this phase and re-examine what I'm doing and why I'm doing it. So, I've had to step back and take a look at what I've been doing lately.

When I did that, I started to doubt my abilities...doubt what I've been doing and if I change how I schooled, would my kids turn out ok.

You see, as homeschoolers, how my children turn out is my responsibility right?

Boy was I WRONG!!! Its God doing the work NOT ME!!!!

I know best how my children learn and I have to notice signs of things changing. Each one of my children are different kinds of learners so there is not ONE curriculum that will work across the board for each child. I was not creating a love of learning in my kids...they were hating school. Well, I decided to change that. We took a different approach and the atmosphere in the house seemed to change. No, its not the traditional curriculum. We take an eclectic approach really. For example, for Bible today, the kids are playing a PS2 game called The Bible game.
For History, they picked a country they want to learn about...something that interests them. THen from Blockbusteronline, I ordered two dvd's about their countries.
Same thing for Science...and for math...regular switched on schoolhouse for that. Angel and Tony have a dvd for Italian, they want to learn Italian words...They will use their own blog to work on grammar and sentence structure...What better way to learn than to write everyday!!

For Phys Ed, they chart daily at least 15 minutes of exercise. It could be a walk, or dancing to Veggie Tales...or Radio Disney...doensn't matter. But they love doing that.
Add in this wonderful site I found online.
http://oldfashionededucation.com/index.html

Very very thorough!!!!!! I will use this too. Especially for some of the extra things I want them to learn.

This day and age, kids don't just need workbooks to learn. Are we trying to stick our children full of facts for a test only for them to pass and not remember what they learned or care about it at all? That isn't what I want...

I want my children to care about our world that we live in.

I want my children to be faithful Christians.

I want my kids to care about other people.

I want my kids to have the TOOLS to learn so that someday, when they want to know how to do something, they have the TOOLS to learn it!!

I want my kids to have dreams and to follow them.

Guess what!!! They have already succeeded!!

Its God and only God that gets the glory for this. He has created in these kids to be the people HE wants them to be.

Be Blessed,
Nikki

My Hero!!!

This must be the best looking man on the planet!!!!

Here is the man I talk so much about. He is what makes all of the work I do at home worth it.

This man has sacrificed many things during the last 20 years.

All for his country. I am so proud of him and am very blessed to be his wife !!!

Nikki

My daughter and her dress up time :)

You can tell that my daughter had a good time :)

Guess we need to have more Photo sessions.....

She had a lot of fun....She looks so pretty!!

Enjoy!

Almost March???!!!!

Wow. I actually took a look at a calendar today and realized its almost March???!!! This is the only time I can remember during a deployment that time flew by so quickly!! I am sooo very thankful for that because I need Mike home so badly. Those of you "outside" the military life might not really understand what its like.

I try not to burden anyone with the daily troubles and things I go thru alone. But imagine single parenting for about 10 months out of 12. Now, that is parenting 4 kids, trying to console them during a very difficult move, realizing 2 days before moving that you don't have a house to live in and having to find a house in ONE day....making a move without help from husband, dealing with the stress and issues of your children who are going thru difficult times too but don't know how to talk about what is bothering them.

Sometimes I feel like I've got a good handle on things and sometimes, when no one is looking, I hide out in my room and just cry. You see, I'm not like alot of military wives so say they actually do better when their husband is gone out to sea. Our lives at home are turned upside down.

Mike is my best friend and without him, I'm nothing. Without my kids , I'm nothing. You see, my Christian life and my family are everything to me. I take on the burden of worrying about how my husband is dealing with things being away from family and spiritual things for such a long period of time. Those of you who have to work "in the world" have to hear and see things that -spiritually- can be hard sometimes. But you still have a chance 3 times a week to be able to get with fellow Christians and get edified . Mike does not. There is no "church of Christ" service on that ship . I don't think there is even someone from the church on there. THere are some denominational services I think. I believe the chapline has to have a service that tries to meet the needs of EVERY religion. Imagine the harm in that?

But its almost done. Days like today, I don't feel like I've got it together at all. Over the past couple of days, I've felt like everything around me is falling apart. I know its not. I know its not as bad as it seems. But once in a while, I just have a couple of bad days. I'm trying to keep myself busy. I tend to do the oppositite of what I need to do lol. Instead of being around people who can hug me and tell me they care, I tend to hide. Days like today, I feel if I'm around too many people, I might just cry because of everything I'm going thru. I couldn't even begin to explain it all. Its just overwhelming sometimes how much it hurts to do this all by myself.

I write this not for pity, or sympathy...but for you to understand.
Yes, I know that God is with me. WIthout Him, I wouldn't have made it past day one. He has given me the strength minute to minute to get thru what I need to. He has picked me up so many times when I've fallen on my face. He has kept my path straight and guided me when I reached a fork in the road. There is a song that I love to listen to but I cry each time I hear it.
Its called Part the Waters, Lord.

Here are the words.

(chorus)
When I think I'm going under, Part the Waters Lord
When I feel the waves around me, Calm the sea.
When I call for help, Oh hear me lord, and hold out your hand,
Touch my life, still the raging storm in me.

Knowing you love me
Thru the burdens I must bear
Hearing your footsteps
Lets me know I'm in your care
And in the night of my life, you bring the promise of day,
Here is my hand, show me the way.

(chorus) above

Knowing you love me
Helps me face another day
Hearing your footsteps
Drives the clouds and fears away
And in the night of my life, you bring the promise of day
Here is my hand, show me the way.

That song describes the past couple of days for me.
Its beautiful....
Be Blessed
Nikki

Magnetism

I want to share something with you that was in a book I got today called Checklist for Life for Moms.

The powerful unseen force of your attitude parallels the lessons of a magnet. Like the magnet, if your mind set or attitude is negatively focused on the negative things about other family members, you will find your family pushed apart by the polarity of criticism . If your children hear or see only negative words or actions from you about your husband, or anyone, your children will push away those same people with their own negative feelings.
Remember the story of Jacob and Laban? Though Laban was Jacob's relative, he cheated Jacob over and over again, refusing to give him what he had promised, refusing to pay him what was owed. Yet Jacob didnt say anything bad about Laban. He didn't treat this older man with disrespect. Jacob guarded his thoughts and responded to laban's negative tricks with hard work and a positive attitude. Genesis 31:7 says that even though Laban cheated Jacob 10 times, God did not let Laban's negative ways hurt Jacob at all. Instead Jacob's positive attitude in response to negative conditions brought about unparalleled prosperity for him and his family.

Check your attitude. Be positive. Remember, with magnets and relationships, it always takes a positive to grow close to a negative.

Here are a few verses I love:

Colossians 3:16-17 NIV
Let the teaching of Christ live in your richly...Everything you do or say should be done to obey Jesus your Lord
1Corinthians 10:33 NIV
I try to please everybody in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved.
Matthew 7:11 The message
Here is a simple, rule of thumb guide for behaivor: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them.

Be Blessed,
Nikki
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Very sad...

I have been hearing about kids who play this game they call " The Choking Game"

Here is a definition of it I found online.


The choking game, also known by large number of other names, is not technically a game but a schoolyard activity involving the inducement of unconsciousness or near unconsciousness by restriction of the supply of oxygen to the brain. The highly dangerous activity is traditional and world-wide, passed down for generations in schoolyards, summer camps and neighborhoods. Practitioner demographics are strongly weighted towards juvenile males but includes females and adults of both genders. The activity has been responsible for a large number of juvenile deaths and permanent neurological disabilities almost entirely among the juvenile male cohort. There are estimates that as many as 250 to 1,000 young people die in the United States each year playing some variant of the choking game. Tracking the exact number is difficult because many of the cases are reported as suicides.[1] The attractions are manifold: it is done as a dare, it can induce a brief sense of euphoria, it is reported to enhance erotic feelings, it is amusing to some to watch others losing consciousness or behaving erratically, the prospect of an altered state of consciousness, the experience of a brownout or, more recently, copycatting elements of the film Flatliners. It is also free, legal and appears innocuous to those without a proper understanding of the mechanism involved.

What recently brought this to my attention is a Christian family found out their child has been involved in this....How many others are doing this but families just don't know.


Like everything else in life there are a few warning signs for parents.
Watch for signs of bruises or red marks on your childs neck. And of course beware if he or she is suddenly wearing turtle neck shirts. With winter approaching, it is an easy way to hide the marks.
Also pay attention if your child is suddenly developing severe headaches. Cutting off their circulation can definitely cause headaches to appear.
Watch for red eyes.
Definitely check to see if belts, ropes or ties are suddenly appearing, especially if they are tied in a noose like way.
Locking bedroom doors suddenly is also a key that something could be wrong.
The best way to prevent your child from doing this is by talking. Make sure they realize what the consequences of this game is. They may not realize that this could led to death. Children seem to think they are invincible and nothing bad can happen to them. But it can. They could play this game hundreds of times. But it only takes one time for them to be dead.

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Local news headlines is about a girl who is 11 that was abducted, abused and then she got away .
She was taken while walking with a friend...geez, she wasn't even walking alone. THis is sooo scary. Someone told my daughter about this before I got a chance to sit down with her...and she asked me, " Mommy, why did they do that to that girl? I'm scared." She has tried so hard to NOT be afraid to walk ONE BLOCK to our local convenient store. I finally got her to go with her 10 year old brother but this will probably end now that she heard this story from friends. We need to talk to our kids, give them a safely course of some kind. Do our kids know enough about personal safety?

Be blessed
Nikki

Where have I been for 5 days?

Yes, I realize that its been about 5 days since my last update and for that I apologize but there is so much sickness going around my household, I haven't had much time to sit down and gather my thoughts, let along write about them.

Michael is just now feeling better. He had either headache, sinus problems or upset stomach that hasn't wanted to go away completely. He seems to be doing much better.

Joey, seems to have gotten over the stomach thing only to get a sore throat, achey, sinus yuckies which includes major migraines.

Tony seems to have this constant tickle in his throat from his asthma. Being in cold air is new to him and it doesn't do his asthma very good.

Angel normally has very dry skin in the winter but this year brought something new. ECZEMA....
It was horrible, patches of brownish red skin all over her that burned and itched like crazy. It think we have it under control now ...at least spring is right around the corner right?

Me, well, not sure if I have been sick or just plain exhausted. Trying to handle all of the above and the normalcies of life, just can get so overwhelming sometimes. Yes, I know I only have about 6 more weeks of single parenting until I get a two week break but then Mike has to go back to Virginia Beach to finalize stuff for retirement and during that time, he has to take the van back with him which leaves me without a car for about 5 weeks.

Boy am I starting to get excited about Mike's return. He hasn't been home (Martins Ferry) for so very long. The kids and I are all so very excited as is his whole family.

Today brings me to work on the house getting things ready for him coming home. I am going shopping for twin beds for the basement bedroom for the older two boys. Its still a bit chilly down there yet but hopefully soon it will be in the 50's and that means a bit warmer downstairs that they can sleep there.

OH>>>almost forgot!! Calling all handymen----or women-----
I have a few things I need help with. Putting up a few pictures...and fixing two doors in my house getting ready for my hubby to come home. I don't want things broken when he gets here...
Then he will feel like he has to fix things instead of enjoying his time home.

Anyone have these abilities that can help, just let me know.

Ok, there is my update...
bye bye
Be blessed
Nikki

..Inside Joke for Sally..ENJOY!!!

What About Socialization?


by Pam Hartley


10. We're training him to like isolation so that he can be an astronaut.

9. Socialization? We're Republicans!

8. Don't worry. We get together with other kids twice a week so he can learn how to spit on them and treat them disrespectfully.

7. We do Unit Studies on Socialization, and also Hair Washing, Clothes Folding, and other completely redundant subjects.

6. I'm sorry, I didn't hear you. I was mentally planning her week of Girl Scouts, 4-H, dance class, karate, and soccer. What were you saying about socialization?

5. If I could get him to stop planning so many group camping trips and book fairs, I'd be able to convince him to socialize!

4. Huh?

3. Please, just for a change, ask me about college, okay?

2. Squeak, dive under the nearest object, peek out, and mutter "who are you and what do you want?"

1. Oh, I know what you mean! That's why we're homeschooling, for the socialization!"



Thought these were funny. At least to those who homeschool . You have to understand that Socialization, or our LACK OF, is one of the big questions those who do not homeschool, questions alot...

Have a good laugh Sally!!!
By the way, Sally Massey throws the most awesome parties for kids!!!!!!!
Nikki

TOP 20 Advantages to Homeschooling....

20. Your kids never tell you that you're a lot dumber than their teacher.

19. If you can't find matching socks for your child first thing in the morning, who cares?

18. Cleaning out the refrigerator can double as chemistry lab.

17. Your kids have good reason to think they might get spanked in school, but no reason to think they'll get beat up by a gang.

16. If the principal gives the teacher a bad evaluation, she can stick her icy feet against his legs at night.

15. You can post the Ten Commandments on your school room wall and won't get sued.

14. You never have to drive your child's forgotten lunch to school.

13.Your child will never go to their 20th high school reunion, meet an old flame, and recklessly abandon their marriage.

12. You get to change more than diapers, you get to change their minds.

11. If you get caught talking to yourself, you can claim you're having a PTA meeting.

10. It's better to be slightly concerned about socialization than very concerned about socialism.

9. Your child will never suffer the embarrassment of group showers after PE.

8. The only debate about the school lunch program is whose turn it is to cook.

7. You never have to face the dilemma of whether to take your child's side or the teacher's side in a dispute at school.

6. If your child gets drugs at school, it's probably Tylenol.

5. The teacher gets to kiss the principal in the faculty lounge and no one gossips.

4. Your kids recognize that this list is numerically in reverse order.

3. Your honor student can actually read the bumper sticker that you have on your car.

2. If your child claims that the dog ate his homework, you can ask the dog.

1. Some day your children will consider you to be a miracle working expert and will turn to you for advice.

Today's stuff....

Well, got the news today that Michael got the job at Krogers in Bellaire!!!!! Not sure what his hours will be but he starts at 10 on Saturday for training. He was soooo excited and so was I because working there was his first choice. Of course, we had hoped it would have been in our hometown but a 10 minute drive isn't bad either.

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It's finally happened...my kids have tired of this wintry stuff :)
We all agree, the first snow was pretty and nice, then it just got yucky after that. Boy, that didn't last long.
I am hoping that spring is right around the corner because that means my husband will be home.

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If anyone here ever gets the chance to go to the youth convention in Gatlinburg, not winterfest, but another one (can't remember the name..once i get it I will add it to the blog for today). Joey went with some from church and it was sooooo good for him. Incredible!!!! All glory to God for sure.

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How did I survive Valentine's Day? You know, the day that seems to mean more to women than to men? Well, I knew that there are so many women out there without a "someone special" and I considered myself blessed that even though mine isn't here...at least I have one that will be here shortly. You know..you CAN change your mindset to find the good in all things. Its training and NOT easy to do...but it can be done. Once you've mastered it, (not saying I have) I think you will be more positive and peaceful about life. If you are so positive, there are no negatives to bring you down. Boy that sounds dreamy but can it be done? I know that over the past couple of years, I've learned to be more positive. So, my mind really tries to understand why the bad things happen...it all ends up better than I could even think COULD happen. Try it sometime!!

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Well, I'm getting tired and want to get under a nice warm blanket.
I'm thankful that my heat bill came down $15 from last month :)

Be Blessed
Nikki

My Valentine

First let me say Happy Valentines Day. Today is the day so many people take the time to show their love for the special someone in your life. Look in every store and you see the colors of red, pink and white that symbolizes the coming of this day. Today I want to focus my attention on the one special person in my life.

My husband ....

Mike is the best of the best. Am I expected to say that...well no...I am honest and try to be completely honest with myself and others. He has taught me that. Don't play games, just tell it like it is....

Mike and I have been together since we were teenagers. We got married young, had children young and still are young at heart. So many people didn't think we would last cause we had much opposition. Well, we thrive on opposition. As Christians, we are opposed in many ways of our lives but we persevere.
For Mike and I to have gotten where we are today in our relationship is a blessing from God. With the Navy seperation such a huge obstacle in our lives, I think we are doing great. He is my best friend in the world and I feel that even after almost 20 years of marriage, we are still in love. I still get butterflies in my tummy when waiting for an email to come thru, or a call. Many said those butterflies would turn into dragons...lol...not for me. I still look at him with my rose colored glasses on...I see him as a man who is seeking God in his life daily and striving to live the kind of life God wants him to.
Mike and I don't believe in just giving special gifts once a year...we believe that every day is a gift from God and we should show those we love that kind of love every day.
Mike is so very gifted. He can do anything...ANYTHING. If he hasn't done it before, he can read about it and just do it. He is an amazing man with such wisdom about so much. I've struggled for years to understand him. I couldn't see past how "I" saw things to see his point of view but over the past couple of years, I can see his point of view alot better and understand where he is coming from.
He is talented with computers, art, and music (can play keyboard, guitar, bass, AND DRUMS, and sing).He is a talented writer and speaks so eloquently. He has such wonderful leadership qualities that spill over into his daily life. He is a great leader in the Navy and at home with our family.
He is a fantastic husband. He takes time out for me. He takes time to listen to me. He cares about what I think and what I have to say.
He is a fantastic father. The kids absolutely adore their dad. He plays with them and his interests focus on what he can do with all of us.

He is not with us today physically, but know that he is in each one of our hearts. I miss him but I know that each day that passes brings us another day closer to never having to do this ever again.

Will Mike read this...hmmm not sure as I don't think he keeps up with the "blog" thing, but I just wanted others to know how I feel about this wonderful man!
Be Blessed
Nikki
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Esther

Last night I stayed up till almost 3 am watching a movie called A Night With the King.
What a fantastic movie.....

It sparked my interest in Esther more than ever.....

How can people say God doesn't work in your life to bring about the greater good.

Esther was willing to go to the death if need be. She trusted God wholly and completely. Was she afraid, of course she was. You can see the terror on her face as she walked into the kings court without being asked. She wasn't sure what was going to happen but she trusted that whatever was to be, she was going to go being faithful to God.

Amazing story....
She inspired me soooo much.
I recommend this movie...its awesome.
Be Blessed
Nikki

PS>>>>No ...this storm that is coming is NOT, I repeat, NOT my fault :)

Is Winter over yet?????

Well, I came to Ohio wanting winter.....and I sure got it...
But with the nice cold, and snow, came something I never thought about.

THE FLU!!
COLDS!!!
COUGHS!!!!
ACHEY!!!
FEVERS!!!!


Yes, these things don't want to leave our bodies. My kids get rid of something to only get it again or a variation of it.

I am tired.......needless to say.

Then, I catch what they have cause of the close quarters we live in and of course me being the mom I am....I do everything for my kids and end up catching it lol.

Well, February is almost over.....I can see Springtime around the corner.......PLEASE!!!!!

I don't mind the sickness except when it seems to keep us away from church services.
Anyway, hope this will all be over with soon :)

Be Blessed
Nikki

What's New?

Well, ok...it has happened....I'm tired of the winter.....

I didn't expect this to happen but the reason I am feeling this way is because of the sickness that doesn't want to leave us.

You see, Tony who is 10, has cough induced asthma. He doesn't have attacks where he can't breathe...but he has coughing spells that makes it a little difficult. Well, he also is catching alot of colds this year....this cold weather has aggravated his asthmatic condition and I am tired of it lol.

It looks like we are missing church tomorrow because of him not feeling well. His poor nose is all red with a cold and I can see this "sickness" coming a mile away.

Its hard when I'm the only person in the house who can take the kids to services. When I have to stay home with one, the whole clan has to stay home. I can't wait for Mike to get home so I can have some help.

I feel bad when I have to keep everyone home cause I have one sick child.

Oh well, as the mom, its my job to take care of my kids. I sometimes leave one of the younger home with the oldest ...but I hate to do that all the time cause sometimes, no one can give love like mama when your sick :)

If this storm hits us like some are saying, then I better stock up on chicken soup for my household lol.....

I need to get ahold of a good vitamin too...

Anyway, winter is ending soon I hope
Be Blessed
Nikki

Irony at Best

Well, I was reading an article today on cnn.com that just made me laugh.
http://www.cnn.com/2007/TECH/science/02/09/climate.deep.freeze.reut/index.html

Scientists are going to start a project called Arctic Noah's Ark...a frozen Noah's Ark to store seeds to preserve ....

NOW...this project coming from SCIENTISTS who have fun claiming that that science is their religion, Not GOD....but here they are naming their project after something in the Bible...

I just found that funny yet, interesting as maybe this might have them searching for how Noah's ark was built....and that can only lead to searching the bible...

Wonder how this will turn out..
Nikki

Disappointing moments

Something struck my interest from Bible Class last night.

A topic came up on what do we do when disappointments come our way?

How do we handle it?

Well, for myself, I know that disappointment is relative to our expectations.

I have to balance that word ....

I try to not have too high of expectations because I tend to be a bit of a perfectionist anyway.
When it comes to my kids, my expectations are high and if they aren't meant, it bothers me.

I wonder what my life is going to be like in a couple of months when my husband comes home.
But I don't focus on it so much that Satan starts to put thoughts in my head that I might put high expectations on the homecoming and retirement. I've learned many , many lessons the hard way over the years to take life in stride.

When something comes along that may pose as a disappointment to me, I do my best to let it affect me for like ...hmm....long enough to give it to God. THen its not mine anymore and God owns it , not me. I can't change whatever happened anyway. Why let it bother me? Yes, sometimes, its alot easier to "blog" than to practice. But letting go and letting God is something I really try to put into practice.


Remember, we are told to pick up our cross and follow God but who is giving us the super - human strength it takes to carry it around daily? Only God can give that to us. But the strength is there....you have to be willing to open yourself up enough to utilize it. It can make you vunerable....ready for the challenge???

Be Blessed
Nikki
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Whats New with Us?

Hello everyone!
Well, my son went to Gatlinburg youth conference. He had a great time. A great big thank you to John and Sally and to those who made it possible for Joey to be able to go.

With Mike still being gone, it helps so much for him to be able to go to these things and participate with adults who can be a good influence on him.

Its sooo cold here. Colder than I like thats for sure. NO JOHN, not complaning....lol.

I see that Valentines Day is right around the corner and it brings a bit of sadness to my heart knowing my "Valentine" isn't here with me right now but he will be soon.

You who have your spouse home with you all of the time, enjoy the time you have together.
Try your best to not each other for granted.

Hopefully, if the groundhog is right, spring is right around the corner. Yes, winter is a beautiful time of year, but the cold is dangerous for so many people. I'm ready for "normal" winter hahah.

Well, sorry my "ramblings" aren't more interesting. I'm tired and feeling a bit down in the dumps lol.

Be Blessed All
Nikki

New Ventures....

Have you ever been in a rut and couldn't figure how to get out?

Well, it was me a few days ago. Life was getting me down....the 6th of Feb brings me to the mark that my husbands deployment hit 4 months...Well, I miss making some kind of money for our family. I used to do childcare in Virginia beach and had done it for 10 plus years....

I was burned out really and hoped to do something a little different.

So, circumstances happened....

I am now signing up with Avon and Home Interior.

I am still trying to market and sell my Natural Lip balm and will be making Disciple's Crosses soon.

If you don't have an Avon or HI Rep, let me know...

I am not doing this to get rich but to help with income since my husband is getting ready to retire from 20 years military service and want to help out.

I am very excited about my new ventures and hope this might help me make more friends being new in the area too!!!

The crosses are GORGEOUS!!!! The prices range for these are around $8 a piece.

THINK EASTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyway, I am thinking of also making some Wilton Candy for Easter too....and maybe selling the suckers...

Anyway, the options are out there and I ask that you pray for me as I take all of this in and try and see how its going to work for me.

Here is a picture of one of the crosses...(at the top)

Now, that I am coming out of my rut, I hope to post more...

Be Blessed

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Nikki

Fellow Homeschoolers...Let's Try this

Nikki Here: Found another article I wanted to share....


This morning my oldest daughter and I read several pages from The Law by Frederic Bastiat. The Law was published in 1849. Frederic Bastiat puts forth several arguments for small governments, and why citizens have to watch their government. After reading a couple paragraphs I would talk with my daughter to make sure she understand the main points. One of my goals from this exercise is to teach her to mark up books. As I mentioned almost a year ago, one of the important parts of really mastering a book is to mark it up, to make the book yours.

The brain processes the information deeper when you stop and think about the main points of a book, and add your notes. Just adding a few comments on a page makes the reading much more active. About ten years ago I was reading The Well Trained Mind by Jessie Wise and Susan Wise Bauer.
One of the references mentioned in the book was How to Read a Book by Mortimer J. Adler. I had never heard of the book before. I bought the book. I read the book. I read it again. There was a little light bulb which went off in my mind. It was OK to mark up books! In fact, it was a good thing. Marking up a book helps with the processing and mastery of the book. I wish I had been taught this sooner.
One of the things I love about homeschooling is teaching ideas and skills to my children. From both nature and nurture I have always been distrustful of large government. The Law helps articulate why we need to be careful. But I was pass 30 before I learned to mark up a book. My oldest daughter is learning this important lesson at twelve. The next books on the schedule are John Adams by David McCullough and The Only Investment Guide You'll Ever Need by Andrew Tobias. I'll buy these books for her. She'll add them to her personal library. Some times we'll read parts of them together.
We always discuss the books. And I encourage her to mark up the books. If she goes light, I'll go back through the book with her and tell her about some of the points I thought were important.If you haven't taught your children to mark up a book, check out How to Read a Book from the library, or buy it, and read it yourself, with a pen in hand. Then you can work with your children to help them learn how to mark books up.




Nikki Here----- How many times were YOU told in school to NOT write in your books....

Ok, get a good book and mark it up really good....

You might want to start a book club with fellow homeschoolers and see what different things the kids come up with in their own copy of their books....

This MIGHT require the parent to read the book with their child too...hmmmm.....do we DARE? Hahahaha....

Ok, getting an idea here....

Anyone else on board?

Nikki

Trusting God in the Unseen

When changes come up in life...ones completely unexpected, what do you all do?

I get scared and start to panic.

Should I react that way?

Not from all the times in my life that I have seen God work.

Without going into a lot of detail, plans may be changing with "Job after Navy".

At first, I was scared. Then angry. But still stayed calm. Then God reminded me that He has taken care of me in every situation that has come up so why would this one be any different.

Ok God keep reminding me. I need it daily. My faith is built on nothing less than Jesus blood and righteousness.....and in the world---- the promises that God has proved over and over again.

May I accept change as a challenge to my faith to grow stronger in Him. We have to live with our human perspective. Sometimes it feels like our vision is soooo blinded. I can't see very far ahead...not even one second. So, why not trust in God?

Pray, Pray and pray more. I know I can approach God with my concerns and how my heart is feeling....then leave it with Him and not stand in Gods way.

I am looking forward to Ron's lesson on how God works providencially in our lives. I know it to be true and to not see it is discounting God. Do not put limits on God. As there is evidence in scripture, then if He said it, I believe it!!!


Be Blessed
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Nikki

Homeschooling

Here is a great post I saw online that I wanted to share :





What Non-Homeschoolers May Not Know • Jan. 10, 2007
Posted in Musings and Miscellany

We've been educating our children at home for ten years now. In those ten years, I have observed that there are expectations that non-homeschoolers can place on homeschooling moms simply because they lack the practical knowledge of what it means to homeschool.

If you are the mother, grandmother, sister, friend, father, or brother of a homeschooling mom, here are some things you should know:

1. Educating children at home is a full-time job. Don't get irritated if she consistently allows the answering machine to do its job. If she were a teacher in an institutional classroom, you probably wouldn't think of calling her during school hours, so try to realize that while still at home, she is keeping regular school hours, too.

2. Unlike homes in which the children are gone for eight straight hours, her home is in a constant state of activity. The children are not only home, they are home making messes. All day long. Their mother doesn't even have the opportunity to go into their rooms while they are at school and weed out the junk. And if she is like me, you might find odd homeschooly things lying around- like the month we had a dead turtle in the garage fridge.

3. Housekeeping and homeschooling are mutually exclusive. If she is doing her job educating her children academically, then her house is not being cleaned. If she takes the day to clean the house, then school wil not be accomplished.

4. Place realistic expectations on her- she cannot simultaneously teach school, make three square meals, keep a house that looks like it has sprung out of the pages of Architectural Digest, have her nails done, drive children to extracurricular activities, and have all the clothing laundered and pressed. Something's gotta give, and in my experience, it is usually her personal care. So don't expect her to don the latest styles, have her roots meticulously dyed at just the right moment, and her aforementioned nails filed and polished to perfection. And while most of us aren't slovenly, we just tend to put some superfluous aspects of personal care at the bottom of the to-do list.

5. For many of us, homeschooling isn't an option. Many believe it is not only the best way for their family, it is the only way. Many see homeschooling as a Scriptural directive. When sharing a particular struggle unique to homeschooling, comments like, "Well, why don't you consider putting them in school? Maybe homeschooling just isn't your thing" aren't helpful. Instead, offer a listening ear and your fervent prayers on her behalf.

6. If you are truly concerned about the state of her emotions, home, children, or marriage, offer practical help to ease her burden. Personal time is at a premium for her, so consider offering to take her kids for the day so she can recuperate. If you like to do laundry, offer to come over and get the loads going, fold, and/or iron. If you like to cook, consider putting together some meals that she can store in the freezer for days when time is at a premium. If she teaches a broad spectrum of ages and grades, consider offering to come in once a week or more to teach preschool to the little ones. One grandma I know created "Nana U" for her preschool grandson (number five of seven) and not only did it ease her homeshooling daughter's burden, it created a special bond between grandma and the child.

But there’s a caveat here: ASK her what would be most helpful to her. Don’t presume to know what would help her. Taking the oldest children for the day might be fun for you, but it’s quite possibly not at all helpful to her. The living room might need to be vacuumed, but it’s not helpful if she’s trying to take a nap. Someone once told me, “If it’s not wanted, it’s not helpful.”

7. Think about what a financial burden homeschooling may be placing on the family. The loss of her possible income can be a real struggle nowadays, and you might be able to buoy her for another year by offering to purchase little things like simple school supplies. Gifts for the children like books on subjects of interest to the child, field trip fees, museum memberships, and the money to pay for music lessons or other extracurricular activities are the best thing you could give a homeschooling family. Not only does a homeschooling mom not need one more thing to manage or pick up, she would be thrilled to see you take an interest in the many academic items on her wish list.

8. Simple questions like, "How can I pray for you?" and "Is there any way I can help you?" are like a cool breeze in her life. Don't assume you know her needs- ask. You could just be the vessel God uses to carry her on through this very demanding and ultimately rewarding season of her life.




THIS WAS SOOOO GOOD!!!!!!
Hey Sally, and Laurie........We need to start our own little support group :)

Teachers.... Who needs them???

How many times have you been asked to teach a class and you said no?
What was your reason?
No time?
Afraid of the committment?

Do you run when you see the deacon in charge of education coming your way?

Or maybe screen your calls when you see a call from someone from your congregation who wants to ask you to teach?

God says its a high honor to teach. But those who teach also will be judged more strictly.
Why not look at it as a challenge of your faith?


WHAT TEACHERS MAKE

The dinner guests were sitting around the table discussing life.One man, a CEO, decided to explain the problem with education. He argued,"What's a kid going to learn from someone who decided his best option inlife was to become a teacher?" He reminded the other dinner guests what theysay about teachers......."Those who can, do.......Those who can't, teach."To stress his point he said to another guest....."You're a teacher, Bonnie.Be honest. What do you make?"Bonnie, who had a reputation for honesty and frankness replied, "You wantto know what I make? She paused for a second, then began...

Well, I make kids work harder than they ever thought they could.

I make a C+ feel like the Congressional Medal of Honor.

I make kids sit through 40 minutes of class time when their parents can'tmake them sit for 5 without an I Pod, Game Cube or movie rental...

You want to know what I make?"She paused again and looked at each and every person at the table.

"I make kids wonder.

I make them question.

I make them criticize.

I make them apologize and mean it.

I make them have respect and take responsibility for their actions.

I teach them to write and then I make them write.

I make them read, read, read.I make them show all their work in math.

I make my students from other countries learn everything they need to knowin English while preserving their unique cultural identity.

I make my classroom a place where all my students feel safe.

I make my students stand to say the Pledge of Allegiance to the Flag,because we live in the United States of America.

Finally, I make them understand that if they use the gifts they were given,work hard, and follow their hearts, they can succeed in life.

"Bonnie paused one last time and then continued....

"Then, when people tryto judge me by what I make, I can hold my head up high and pay no attention because they are ignorant...You want to know what I make?

I MAKE A DIFFERENCE........What do you make?"


I challenge you to accept a teaching position for a class at Sunday School. You will be blessed and those children will be blessed also.

Teaching adults? What a great way to expand your Bible knowledge or maybe share it with others. We all have something to bring to the assembly.

God said, "Fear not, for I am with you."
Be Blessed,
Nikki
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Challenge Me

I am trying to take daily situations that people go thru and make a spiritual lesson from them.

Its a training of the mind for sure and I am challenging myself with this. One thing I am asking you all to do for me is send me some topics to challenge me also.

Think you all can do that for me?

There was a topic in our adult bible class last night about women praying in the company of men. It was a great class but its a very touchy subject. Some of the comments made really made me think of what I do and say in our assemblies on Sunday and Wednesday.

Are women allowed (book, chp, verse) to speak in a bible class....?

Its very clear women are not to lead a prayer, and teach. But what about making comments in class?

Comments on this subject are welcome..
vilano6@comcast.net

Be Blessed
Nikki

Open and shut doors?

THis is a topic that has been on my mind alot lately.
You see, when my 18 year old son left a job in Virginia to move to Ohio with us, I thought for sure he would have NO TROUBLE finding a job. Of course, he only needed something until the family business opened up in the summer but I thought that Wendy's or McD's would hire in an instant. Hmm....but all doors remained shut. Not one call, nothing.

WHat he was really hoping for was a job at DQ since that is where he already has his experience at but the DQ here in our town doesn't open until Feb or so. He and I just sit and wait ....patiently ;)

But yesterday, I saw a sign at our local DQ, saying that they were taking applications. Gave address to send name and address to. Hmm....could this be it? So, his information was sent out this morning.

How hard is it to sit and wait to see what God has planned?

Do we wonder why some doors that to our human understanding, haven't opened?

I know everything is under the control of our Almighty, and He cares about us and knows what is best for us. I trust Him to make the choices for me. I know that sometimes, I have to make a choice with the information that is presented to me at the time but ultimately I leave it in His hands.

Sometimes when I sit down and its quiet here...(very rare moment) I wonder at all God has done in my life. Its exciting to see a growth in myself spiritually over the years to help me know I'm on the right track.

God used a terrible time in my life to bring me to my knees to open up my heart to give in to let Him work what needed to be worked in my life. Since that time, my depression and anxiety disorder all but disappeared, my marriage turned completed around , and everything else in my life went from dusk to DAWN!!

Trust God to work. Let Him do the job only He can do. Sometimes we have to get out of His way.....

Be Blessed Today
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Nikki

Different Views

I have found myself greatly apologizing to sooo many people since yesterday's BIG snow .
I have found that the majority of people here do NOT like the snow fall we got.
So, I kept saying, " I'm sorry, this must be my fault because I have been asking for snow for a long time."

But then I stopped to think...why apologize. I didn't do anything wrong. God knows what beauty is in the falling snow. Yes, it might make our lives a bit slower....but is that really a bad thing?

I've noticed alot lately that when the weather is not "sunny and 70.." then people are calling the weather Yucky. I don't do that anymore. I try to look at the change of weather as a blessing from God because He knows we need variables in our lives. I believe he gave us seasons for change and beauty. Can we try to see the beauty in all of creation? Even when the weather doesn't suit our needs at the time?

Calling all Christians, look for the beauty even in the things that to us may seem "unpleasing to the eye."

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Thank God the Massey's made it back safe and sound. So many people missed that family and they were only gone a week :)
THank God Shaylyn is feeling better too...and Pray that no one else in that family gets ahold of that bug.

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Well, I'm off to bed. Its almost the end of January which brings us to February.....DEPLOYMENT ALMOST OVER!!!

Be blessed,
Nikki

LET IT SNOW...LET IT SNOW...LET IT SNOW!!!!

First big snow fall of the year!! Enjoy the pictures.

After not really having any snow for the past few years in Virginia Beach, this was a very welcome sight today. We are "supposed to" have 2-4 inches...We will see but as you can see, the kids are having fun!!

Calling all American Idol Fans!!!

For all of you American Idol fans out there...today is the day we've been waiting for....the new season of our favorite show.

I love talent shows. I always have even when I was a young girl. I grew up watching Star Search.

So tonight is the night...its always fun to watch the beginning shows cause it shows the people who really cannot carry a tune who have the guys to go before those judges anyway for their few moments of stardom lol.

What else is going on in my life?

Hmmm....waiting for my husband to come home, looking for ways to make money while still staying at home, getting prepared for navy retirement, getting my mind prepared for our next stage of life, hmmm seems like enough that I want to stop my list there lol.


My kids are all doing great.

More to come later
Be Blessed!!

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Nikki

Friday January 12th

Friends....

I was reading John's blog about friendship and I want to write today about the friends you make in Christ.

When I was growing up I had a few really close friends. Over the years, since life moves us in different directions, those friendship kinda fizzled out. I tried my best to keep in contact with people but what I found was I was the one doing all the contacting. They never made an effort to keep in close contact with me. SO ...I did a little test. I quit calling and wanted to see if they would get the picture...that they needed to put forth the effort too. THey did not.

So, hard as it was, I let it go.

Christian friendship are so incredibly different!!! I've had friends that I made after my husband and I became Christians that I still have today. I might not see them all of the time, but they are there for me and I for them.

I try to look at each person I meet as a potential friendship.

I hear from each congregation I go to, that there is usually one thing missing. People knowing you enough to help bear your burdens in this life. People don't want to tell others that everything isn't FINE.....unless they know you really well. Well, that takes time and energy and most people nowadays don't have alot of time to pursue friendships...not the kind that God wants anyway. Everyone is sooo busy just trying to take care of their families...

I want to encourage you to let those that mean alot to you....let them KNOW IT!!!!

The Masseys....all of you guys...I LOVE YA!!! How you made this transition to Ohio for my family so easy is just a blessing from God. Our family is blessed to know you guys!!!

My friends from Virginia Beach, the Emery's....that family made my time in Virginia Beach a blessed time as well. Love ya!!!!

The Komar's.....I love you guys too!!! We miss Virginia beach so badly sometimes....and if it wasn't for the HATRED of driving 8 hours, me and the kids probably would have made a trip down there a FEW Times to visit in the past 3 months lol.

THe Farleman's from New York...we have known them from the time we became Christians. THey are soo very dear to our hearts...I wish I could keep in better contact with them. But we love you guys too!!!

THe Hackworths...HUGS MELANIE!!!!!!!

Well, these are just a couple that come to mind. Let me encourage you all to take time to let those near to you to tell them how you feel and how you appreciate them.

Call just to say hi....Call to see how their week has been....IT doesn't take a 20 minute conversation to let someone know they are being thought of.

Be Blessed today . Look around...you already are...
Nikki